Musings on Marriage..

Assalamu Alaikum,

The story of Adam and Eve sheds a lot of light into the basic human nature. When Allah created Adam (A), Allah gave him the highest status. He was given the highest amount of knowledge which even the angels could not understand. And heaven was made the home for him. Due the knowledge bestowed on him, Allah even asked the angels to prostrate to him. (Quran 2:30-34)

If we think about it in spiritual or material sense, there was nothing more one could ask for. He had achieved all the knowledge and he was in heaven. Naturally he should have been happy and content. But Adam(A) was not.. There was something missing which all the knowledge and wealth could not fulfill. It was then that Allah created Eve out of Adam’s own part. When Adam opened his eyes he saw the beautiful face of a woman gazing down at him.  She revealed that she was to ease his loneliness and bring tranquility to him.

It has to be noted that how high was the stature of their relationship in the eyes of Allah:

When they were sent to Earth, they landed in different places. They searched for each other 100 years and finally met in Mecca. The location where they met is known as Jabal Rahma (mountain of  blessing), Arafa. Arafa is so important a place that Allah says he will forgive everything for a servant who stays for a shortwhile there. Standing in Arafa is the most important part of Hajj that Prophet emphasised “Hajj is Arafa”.



The story of Adam and Eve is the first and original love story. All others are repetition of the same. Allah created everything in pairs and  Adam and Eve are symbolic of all men and women. . For every Adam, there is an Eve and their hearts are not at rest until they meet.

Just like Adam and Eve landed up in different places and yearned for each other, every man and his woman are born at different places and they seek each other. Marriage is the culmination of that ultimate search in this world.

Quran and Hadith on marriage:

“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.” (Qur’an 30:21)

“Verily, the most perfect amongst believers in faith is he who is the best in manner and the kindest to his wife”. – Hadith

“Any woman who dies when her husband is pleased with her will enter Paradise”. – Hadith

“Whoever gets married, has safeguarded half of his religion.” – Hadith

If Allah didn’t create Adam, He would not have created Eve. I (blogger) cannot see this anymore emphasized than in the Hadith Qudsi:  “If I were to order anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would have ordered women to prostrate to their husbands.”( Tirmidhi, 2/314, in Abwab a-rida’, 10).  To appreciate this, we need to look beyond the earthly aspects between a husband and wife and realize the underlying relationship of their spirits that started even before they are born on this world. They were made for each other from the world of the Spirits (Ruh) itself.

“they are your garments and you are their garments” (Surah Al Baqarah 2:187).

“Marriage is my way and my sunnah.” “The one who does not act upon my sunnah is not of me.”-Hadith

“Among the permitted things, Allah hates divorce most “-Hadith

“When a husband and wife look at each other with love, Allah looks at both of them with mercy.” (Sahih Bukhari 6:19 Tirmidhi 14:79) 

2 Responses

  1. A lovely post on marriage 🙂 Are you hinting at something? hmmm 🙂

    Ya Haqq!

  2. Yes dear Irving grandpa:)

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